Well I cook, clean, work, and take care of a 6 & 7 year old. My husband comes home takes a shower, gets his supper and goes into the livingroom and watches t.v from 7-10. Then goes to bed. When I ask him to do any house work (take out the trash) he always says tomorrow. He is useful in one way though he cuts the grass in the summer with a riding lawnmower. So I’d say I do 99% of everthing.
That is a lazy man.
But for every relationship like that there is on like this
I do : Laundry, Dishes, and Cook
He does: Cleans the whole house, vacuum’s, feeds the dog, takes out the garbage, and sometimes cooks, and works a full time job.
This woman is LAZIER than the man in the previous example. At least he works 8 hrs a day. This woman works maybe 2 hrs while her husband probably works 10.
Lets not forget the other double standards
during dating both cook for each other. 50/50. But paying for dinner is on the man.
during marriage the housework is 50/50. but all manual labor and snow shoveling , car fixing etc is on the man.
In addition to the fact men work more hrs.
the way i see it men give more/are less cheap,work more hours, and through a double standard does more work at home. THAT IS THE NORM. Women are the lazy ones.
So how do we get women to work more, give more and do their part in the maintenance of the home?
Just asking because I know many men who are going through this and I empathize with them. Its sad. Its also happened to many male relatives.
A: Yes, it is a false stereotype. My ex-husband was a lazy S.O.B., but my bf takes care of the house repairs, lawn maintenance, laundry, and grocery shopping. We share meal preparation and clean-up, bill paying, pet feeding, snow shoveling, gardening, and car repairs and maintenance. We both work outside the home.
As far as dating, he cooked for me, I cooked for him, we bought each other trinkets and tokens of affection, alternated paying for the pizza and movie rental, alternated paying for meals out… In short, it’s been an even situation for the most part.
Add: He does the shopping becauses he likes to. He enjoys looking for the sales and 2-for1 deals.
A: Hell yeah! I see articles all over the place that basically suggest that because men decide to work longer hours outside of the home and end up doing less housework that makes them lazy and burden on women. Bullshit.
A: I didn’t think men were being stereotyped as lazy. Maybe tired when they get off work but who isn’t?
A: I think your point is convoluted and I’d like to see some statistical facts to back it up. First of all I know very few women these days who don’t work full-time outside the home and very few couples where the man does the lion’s share (or even a fair share) of the household chores and childcare. Show some real facts to back up your rhetoric
A: not all men are lazy,just your husband.Somen men like your husband will sit and watch t.v because doing lifting is hard work. Now how do we get women to do their part? by letting them work 10 hours a day with no maternity leave
A: Some men have no problem proving that fact and that is why they are stereotyped as LAZY. People that have a brain know that is not always true. People that are defiant and rebellious are usually the lazy ones.
A: I will never understand why people on Yahoo message boards clump men and women into groups. Each person is different…whatever the dynamic is between you and whoever you are talking about is personal…find someone you are compatible with or deal with what you got but don’t lump people into groups
A: Your question is too convoluted but this is one of those issues that people should talk out before getting married.
A: “So how do we get women to work more, give more and do their part in the maintenance of the home?”
Uh…women still do the vast majority of housework and childcare in addition to working full-time today. There are lazy men and there are lazy women. Declarations that one or the other is more/less lazy are an infantile waste of time
A: This stereotype is caused by people like you! Stop saying that men and women are ALWAYS expected to act this way!
My parents both work and provide for our family. Actually, my mom makes more than my dad! Tons of familes are like this! Instead of ranting and raving about stereotypes, why don’t you go out there and do something about it! It is partially the woman’s fault if she isn’t doing enough for her family. But I think that the “housewife” can actually have a pretty tough job sometimes! Why don’t you try taking care of bratty children, not to mention taking care of a husband that sits down and watches tv for five hours, cooking, cleaning, etc!
A: The problem with most feminists is they will rely on feminist standards of studies, which predictably result in “man bad / woman good”. These studies tend to ‘forget’ to include many factors, like plumbing or electrical work – sometimes those take hours.
Now one ex of mine was an intensely lazy woman. I never understood how she managed to get through the whole day doing nothing. Granted she looked after our daughter, but in a later relationship I was the SAHD and I looked after our baby. In addition to that, I did most of the housework, including scrubbing a tile floor with a scouring pad and kitchen bowl, on my hands & knees every day or two.
When I compare the work I did as a SAH parent compared to my ex – I oculdn’t believe how easy it was. It was like being on holiday.
A: Men are as lazy as you allow them to be. I am in a Lesbian relationship and have been most of my life. We share everything. Yes I tend to mow the lawn because like to and she would clean the oven or the fridge out. She would do the gardening where as I would prefer to do the weed eating. I do help with the gardening, but don’t like it. Whatever needs to be done is just done. She may not feel like cooking after I have cooked the past two nights so she will buy takeaways. She would normally cook when we have people over where I prefer to cook when it just us. 50/50 there is no way around it. You work too and probably harder so tell to get with the new millennium and start contributing. Oh and we both work 40-50hours weeks.
A: If the man in question works down a coal mine, or in some heavy manual industry then not many women would choose to trade places.
Its because of manual industry that men die 5 years younger than women.
As less and less heavy industry exists these days male lifespans are catching up with women’s.
Also women drink and smoke more these days
A: Got news for you there, Blue bird. I own my own home and do all of the work inside and out myself! I’m talking; I mow the lawn, take the trash out, shovel the snow etc.. Inside I do all house cleaning, meals etc… My boy friend also owns his own home. He struggles to mow his lawn! I do his laundry for him at my place. He struggles to vacuum, and he never picks up a shovel as he has four wheel drive on his truck! He struggles to do any type of work inside or out! We both work outside the home. There are lazy males and lazy females trust me! By the way, we take turns buying meals and various other things.
A: Wow. I am utterly amazed.
I work a full-time 40 hour per week job, and a 8-16 hour per week part-time job. I pay the bills, I wash the clothes, I wash dishes, I vacuum and mop the floors. I take out the trash, I mow the grass, I feed the dogs, I make the beds, I dust and do a helluva lot more than the man in my life. Sure, he takes out more trash than I do, loads the dishwasher occasionally, feds the dogs…but 95% of the housework is done by me and whenever I need help or he needs help…we help one another. There is no 50/50 rule. He and I both work and we both do chores, I just do more, and I work more. Furthermore, I make more money than he does and pay more of the bills than he does. So, how can I get him off his lazy *** to do some more work?
So, I don’t know where you’re coming from…but I think you have a little touch of chauvinistic pig syndrome going on.
A: You raise a good point.
Of course this would vary from couple to couple.
But, generally, I don’t think men get nearly the respect they should for working their job. Which, on average, is more stressful and physically demanding than jobs that women do.
If working in HR, serving coffee, or cutting hair is stressful to someone, then they need to see a shrink and get a reality check.
My woman complains about doing the laundry, yet she owns 95% of the clothes. So, that doesn’t even count in my house.
Not to mention that just living with a woman takes a toll on a man. All the nagging and talking. And heaven forbid she has a bad day at work, you never hear the end of it.
A: I will never understand why people on Yahoo message boards clump men and women into groups. Each person is different…whatever the dynamic is between you and whoever you are talking about is personal…find someone you are compatible with or deal with what you got but don’t lump people into groups!
